How Gardening Helped My Client to Get Peace With Intense Emotions


I was working with a mentoring client today who had been having trouble with feelings of nervousness that had been paralysing his progression through each day to the point that he’d been hiding away from life for a few months. Here's something that helped him.

When it comes to emotions, Calmology is focused less on changing or getting rid of emotions and much more on learning to be at peace with our emotions.

Emotions are energy. We need energy to heal and to create. I don’t experience any energy as negative. It is all life giving. It is all life bringing. It is all a gift. It exists to aid creation through us.

To suppress our energy is to lower our inborn ability to allow health, wealth and happiness to flow. We never want to resist our emotions. The more energy the better, which includes all forms of energy that your mind might habitually label as negative.

My client is a keen gardener. So to help him understand, I said ‘who knows how a seed feels before it bursts open to reveal its unseen potential?’ He immediately burst into a relief rendering smile – in which he could see that he’d been resisting a vital and virtuous aspect of him Self. He could see that life has been inviting him to step up and has been giving him more energy to help new things to be created through him. He was just mislabelling it as negative 'nervousness'.

I invited him to play with assuming every emotion has as much right to be inside him as his lungs and heart. To not push away any emotional experience. To wake up to any suppression of his life force, to breathe into it all and let it be present within him.

I invite you to play with the same and enjoy the liberation that comes from learning to be at peace with your emotions.